"Bornside Mama" Helped Me Fall In Love With Motherhood — A Heartwarming Testimony

The Fantasy vs. The Reality

I always thought I’d be a natural at motherhood. I’d seen the Instagram posts — moms glowing, babies sleeping peacefully, soft music in the background. I imagined myself cradling my newborn with ease, filled with joy, overwhelmed only by love.

Reality was very different. When my daughter was born, I expected magic. Instead, I felt panic. My body hurt in ways I didn’t know were possible. I was sleep-deprived, confused, and every cry felt like a test I was failing. I loved my baby — but I didn’t know if I loved being a mom. The guilt was crushing.

Finding Bornside Mama at My Breaking Point

That’s when a friend sent me a message: “I’m sending you a book that saved me. It’s called Bornside Mama. No fluff. Just real.” I started reading it during a 3am feeding session. I remember one line so vividly: “It’s okay if you don’t feel enchanted. You’re healing. You’re becoming.”I cried. Not because I was sad — but because someone finally understood.

The Real-Mom Voice I Desperately Needed

Each chapter felt like it was written by someone who’d sat where I was sitting — pajama-stained, tired, nipples sore, heart tender. It didn’t give me checklists or routines. It gave me permission.

Permission to rest.
Permission to ask for help.
Permission to feel both love and frustration at once.

It explained what my body was going through in a way that made me feel safe. It talked about the mental fog without making me feel broken. It helped me understand how to bond with my baby even when I didn’t feel instantly connected.

Small Shifts That Changed Everything

The tone wasn’t perfect-mom. It was real-mom. And slowly, I started noticing little shifts.

I began to smile during feedings instead of counting the minutes.
I felt confident saying “I need help” instead of pretending I had it all together.
I started noticing the magic in the messy — the way she curled her fingers around mine, the way she sighed after feeding, the way her eyelashes fluttered when she slept on my chest.

My Version of Motherhood

I began falling in love with motherhood — not the idealized version, but my version. Bornside Mama didn’t change my baby. It changed how I saw myselfas a mom.

Now, when other new moms ask me what helped me most, I don’t hesitate. I tell them about this book. It’s not a manual. It’s a hug in paper form. It’s the reminder that we’re not supposed to be perfect. We’re just supposed to show up with love — even when it’s messy.

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You don’t have to do it alone. And you were never doing it wrong.

This is what becoming looks like.